i still hate on most men 24/7. ok. my hate-on for male stupidity is due to the fact i socialize as a man with men because i like to listen to loud music, watch cartoons, and discuss politics over too many beers. i hear what most of these tools say about us women, and as a result, i am completely appalled. the worst men on earth for this shit are those who fancy themselves progressives.
i yell at my guy friends regarding their treatment/discussion of women all the time, and it either gets
a) hearty laughter
b) hearty dissing of feminism for being a bourgeois construct
note to self: kick all men in the balls more often.
are women stupid? i think we are socialized to be somewhat pathetic. i believe i was, but i do not take well to any socialization process. i think the way men are is due to a really pathetic machismo socialization process.
ive taken a liking to judith butler, because i think that ditching gender as a binary is only a good thing. i dont think you can ditch gender as a binary entirely, since a lot of the gender discrimination is predicated on the male/female or queer/hetero splits. there needs to be a way that people can discuss gender and queerness while defining it for themselves in a way that does not negate either the feminist or gay rights histories/projects.
what i mean by that is i am so tired of all the "im a feminist, but i shave my legs"/"im not a feminist, but i think women get paid less than men" bullshit.
1. you are a feminist if you think the advances made by the womens movement (birth control, pay equity, access to all professions, etc) are noteworthy achievements. this doesnt mean you are a radical feminist or a feminist activist or a butch who doesnt ascribe to a depilatory regime.
the reason i am telling you that you are a feminist is because the history of keeping women down still affects women today, and it would be nice if all women who believe these advances are good could have a label that just means 'i believe in equality and freedom from being a birthing cow' so that we could present a united front against the way things were. nobody is going to confiscate your nailpolish or alienate your male friends the second you are comfortable describing your beliefs as feminist.
2. expanding peoples ability to identify with a wider gender spectrum would enable women to demonstrate that there are so many different ways of living as women and that none of them conflict with acknowledging the need for women to stand up for themselves and their rights.
i know this sounds whack since im advancing one big label while encouraging more small labels. im trying to advance the notion of one big label that means 'i think women shouldnt be screwed over/treated like babies' co-existing with a complex idea with gender that would enable people to combine their personal gender identity with the broader aims of feminism.
(this post has been drafted as a massive flip of the bird to all the haters out there.)